The following information is from Love and Logic Institute, Inc...
Does teasing end when kids graduate from elementary school? Does it stop when they move on from middle to high school? Does it magically disappear when we become adults? Or is it sadly true that most of us will encounter bullies throughout our lifetimes?
Because we can't ensure that the world will always be sweet and kind to our kids, common sense tells us that we ought to equip them with skills that allow them to cope with this sometimes less-than-considerate world. Listed below are some quick tips:
- Teach them that bullies get their power from our negative emotions. The more upset we get when picked on, the more powerful mean kids feel.
- Show your child how to trick bullies by pretending to be calm. If our children can learn to act calm when bullies hassle them, they become far less attractive targets.
- Teach your child to confuse or bewilder bullies by responding to verbal taunts with replies like, "Thanks for noticing" or "I appreciate the feedback."
Help your child develop great social skills so that they are liked, accepted, and protected by positive peers. Kids who don't know how to relate in healthy ways often find themselves gravitating toward peers who treat them poorly.
Dr. Charles Fay
**For more resources on how to teach your child to cope with Bullying, contact your regional APAC office!
April 13, 2011
April 11, 2011
Scholarships!
Below are the links to two scholarship venues for older youth adopted from foster care, supported by the Dave Thomas Foundation – the first is in partnership with Capital One and Children’s Action Network, and the second is in partnership with SlateXP and Umps Care Charities. Neither is deep with funding, so scholarships are limited, but they are at least additional opportunities for these youth!
Capital One Fostering a Future, a scholarship opportunity sponsored by Children’s Action Network and the Dave Thomas Foundation for Adoption. Click here for more information.
Umps Care Charities All-Star Scholarship, sponsored by Umps Care Charities, Slate XP and the Dave Thomas Foundation for Adoption. Click here for more information.
Capital One Fostering a Future, a scholarship opportunity sponsored by Children’s Action Network and the Dave Thomas Foundation for Adoption. Click here for more information.
Umps Care Charities All-Star Scholarship, sponsored by Umps Care Charities, Slate XP and the Dave Thomas Foundation for Adoption. Click here for more information.
April 4, 2011
Adoptive Family Easter Egg Hunt!!
It's time for our 4th Annual Adoptive Family Egg Hunt! Bring your family and have a hopping good time! Come mix and mingle with adoptive families, while the children enjoy hunting for candy filled eggs, Easter games, crafts and snacks!
Meeting this Saturday, April 9!
Join us in Montgomery at Lagoon Park, Pavillions 4 & 5, 2635 Gunter Park, Montgomery, AL 36114, (next to Pete Peterson Park) from 10:00AM until 11:30AM
or Join us in Auburn at Parkway Baptist Church, 766 East University Drive, Auburn, AL 36830, from 2:00PM until 3:30PM
RSVP before April 7 by calling 334.409.9477 or emailing jhudson@childrensaid.org
March 28, 2011
How to End Lying, Stealing and Defiance Across the Ages
Here is information on a free webinar hosted by The Post Institute that you might be interested in...
"Are you dealing with a child or teen displaying these behaviors?
Find yourself frustrated and/or losing HOPE or know someone who is?
Then pass this email on and/or join us and let this 2 part webinar series, renew your hope! There is hope and there are answers!
I am Helene Messina-Timpone, LCSW an internationally recognized therapist, speaker and coach as well as an adoptive parent. After creating transformation and peace in my home I have been honored in assisting many other families obtain the same in their homes. For a fresh perspective I have invited a very special guest Gail White MD, who will share her own recent and personal struggles, experiences and successes as a mom dealing with these same behaviors with her internationally adopted child.
Together we will explore and discover why this behavior occurs and how to heal what is beneath these behaviors. Best of all you will learn clear step by step strategies for eliminating lying, stealing and defiance. Also, included are the 3 most effective strategies that assist your child in healing what exists beneath the surface.
Certificates and/or CEU's will be available upon request by emailing greatbehaviorbreakdown@gmail.com. you must attend both sessions and will need to allow 2 weeks for receipt of the information
This Webinar is held on the following dates:
Mar 30, 2011 9:00 PM - 10:30 PM EDT
Apr 13, 2011 9:00 PM - 10:30 PM EDT
Register Now at:
http://www.postinstitute.com/workshops/webinar/"
"Are you dealing with a child or teen displaying these behaviors?
Find yourself frustrated and/or losing HOPE or know someone who is?
Then pass this email on and/or join us and let this 2 part webinar series, renew your hope! There is hope and there are answers!
I am Helene Messina-Timpone, LCSW an internationally recognized therapist, speaker and coach as well as an adoptive parent. After creating transformation and peace in my home I have been honored in assisting many other families obtain the same in their homes. For a fresh perspective I have invited a very special guest Gail White MD, who will share her own recent and personal struggles, experiences and successes as a mom dealing with these same behaviors with her internationally adopted child.
Together we will explore and discover why this behavior occurs and how to heal what is beneath these behaviors. Best of all you will learn clear step by step strategies for eliminating lying, stealing and defiance. Also, included are the 3 most effective strategies that assist your child in healing what exists beneath the surface.
Certificates and/or CEU's will be available upon request by emailing greatbehaviorbreakdown@gmail.com. you must attend both sessions and will need to allow 2 weeks for receipt of the information
This Webinar is held on the following dates:
Mar 30, 2011 9:00 PM - 10:30 PM EDT
Apr 13, 2011 9:00 PM - 10:30 PM EDT
Register Now at:
http://www.postinstitute.com/workshops/webinar/"
March 21, 2011
Impact of Adoption on Adoptive Parents
Most of the articles that we post on here deal with the adoptive child but this article talks specifically about the issues that adoptive parents face. Check it out here!
March 17, 2011
Discipline in Older-Child Adoption
This is a great article with specific and concrete ways to discipline a child to help build a trusting relationship with the adoptive parents. Check it out here!
March 4, 2011
What you need to know about child traumatic stress and how the stages of child development make a difference in dealing with it.
http://www.nctsn.org/nctsn_assets/pdfs/edu_materials/Understanding_Child_Traumatic_Stress_Brochure_9-29-05.pdf
February 2, 2011
When Senses Don't Make Sense
"Children who have Sensory Processing Disorder have trouble interpreting touch, sound, smell, and other sensory input. What's a parent to do when a trip to the supermarket, a day at the playground--even a meal or a bedtime cuddle--overloads your child's senses?" This article from Adoptive Families discusses Sensory Processing Disorder and how it effects many of our children. I encourage you to check it out here.
Arguing with Kids is Like Trying to Talk Sense into an Angry Dog
Taken from an email from Love and Logic Parenting:
Have you ever had a successful debate with a rabid dog? I tried it once. It didn't go very well:
Fido [biting my leg]: Grrrr
Me: Now Fido, if you keep this up, there will be serious conseq - ow!
Fido [sinking teeth deeper]: Grrrr
Me: Don't you take that tone with me, mister! You are only hurting yourself with these bad choices you're making…
As humans, our miraculous brains can outperform Fido's before our first birthday. Our brains can do things dogs can't - such as complex reasoning and making wise decisions - as long as we are calm.
Unfortunately, when we are very upset, our brains switch to the part that is not much better at thinking than Fido's dog brain.
So, when we try to lecture or reason with an angry kid, we'll probably be as successful as we'd be with a rabid canine. Like Fido, upset kids are unlikely to stop mid-rage and suddenly be swayed by our wise and compelling words.
Wise adults take better care of themselves by waiting for more calm and happy times to talk with kids. They find that when the storm of emotion has passed over, thinking and logic have a better chance. Calm brains may actually be able to hear and understand what the adults are trying to communicate.
Best of all, kids tend to be more fun to talk to when they aren’t growling and foaming at the mouth. For plenty of practical strategies for responding to your kids when they’re foaming at the mouth, read Love and Logic Magic: When Kids Leave You Speechless.
Dr. Charles Fay
Have you ever had a successful debate with a rabid dog? I tried it once. It didn't go very well:
Fido [biting my leg]: Grrrr
Me: Now Fido, if you keep this up, there will be serious conseq - ow!
Fido [sinking teeth deeper]: Grrrr
Me: Don't you take that tone with me, mister! You are only hurting yourself with these bad choices you're making…
As humans, our miraculous brains can outperform Fido's before our first birthday. Our brains can do things dogs can't - such as complex reasoning and making wise decisions - as long as we are calm.
Unfortunately, when we are very upset, our brains switch to the part that is not much better at thinking than Fido's dog brain.
So, when we try to lecture or reason with an angry kid, we'll probably be as successful as we'd be with a rabid canine. Like Fido, upset kids are unlikely to stop mid-rage and suddenly be swayed by our wise and compelling words.
Wise adults take better care of themselves by waiting for more calm and happy times to talk with kids. They find that when the storm of emotion has passed over, thinking and logic have a better chance. Calm brains may actually be able to hear and understand what the adults are trying to communicate.
Best of all, kids tend to be more fun to talk to when they aren’t growling and foaming at the mouth. For plenty of practical strategies for responding to your kids when they’re foaming at the mouth, read Love and Logic Magic: When Kids Leave You Speechless.
Dr. Charles Fay
January 13, 2011
Camp APAC Information
Alabama Pre/Post Adoption Connections (APAC), a collaborative program of Children's Aid Society and Alabama DHR, would like to invite your family to be a part of our 8th Annual Camp APAC.Check out the latest info about Camp APAC 2011 (June 21-24) including how your adopted child & siblings can apply to attend!
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