Continuing Bryan Post's P.E.A.C.E.F.U.L. components for a Peaceful Parent/Child Relationship...
Component #3
Acceptance is the unconditional love that lies
beneath the essential lifelong commitment a parent makes
to her child.
It is vital to the child's healthy survival in the world.
This level of commitment communicates to your child,
"No matter what may happen in life, you are okay with
me, and for this reason, I accept you as you are."
When a child receives this core message, she will carry
this as a stepping-stone into all areas throughout the rest
of her life.
We all have a need to be accepted, to belong, to feel a
part, to be invited into a group with values and beliefs
that coincide with those that resonate deep within our
beings.
Whether it is a group of friends, the human race, a
community, or a family; being accepted is a means of
defining ourselves.
Many children, unfortunately, do not have this deep sense
of acceptance to fall back on during the struggles of life.
These children live with a deep belief that they are inadequate,
not accepted, and unable to be valued and loved.
The result is a life of constant self-doubt and low self-worth.
Such children grow up and become adults who try to find
their self-worth in others, always looking to others or
their work or their money for approval.
Acceptance between a parent and child is the unspoken
agreement that within their relationship that all is okay
for now and forever.
When difficult times come, as surely they will, this
child knows that she can always return to her parent
for security and acceptance.
Bryan Post
Post Institute for Family-Centered Therapy
"There is help, There is hope."
http://www.postinstitute.com
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